Mrs. Zebedee Got It Right

You may remember Mrs. Zebedee–she was the mother of Jesus’ disciples John and James.

Mrs. Zebedee, in her zealousness for her children, sometimes gets a bad rap.

In Matthew 20, she came to Jesus, asking special consideration for her sons.  She made no bones about it! She wanted the special places on Jesus’ right and left to be given to John and James, to rule alongside Jesus in His future kingdom.

In light of this Jewish mother’s request, the other disciples were recorded as being “indignant.”  Although Jesus did tell Mrs. Zebedee that she didn’t know what she was asking for, I can so relate to this woman.

I see her as a mother who only wanted the best for her kids and went about directly approaching God about it. She was bold; she was forthcoming. I don’t want to ever be accused of never asking for the best for my very own!

It’s been my privilege, my directive, to pray for my three children, now 21, 24, and 27.  Besides asking the Lord to secure their salvation, I’ve prayed over all aspects of their day-to-day needs.

And although they’re grown up now, surprisingly I find I spend even more time now praying specifically for them than I did when they were younger. It’s been an ongoing journey of discovery. . .

As I said before, the MOST important thing you can do for your children’s spiritual welfare is to grow in your own deep personal relationship with Jesus. Seek to grow ever closer to Him through worship, confession, and thanksgiving. Live obediently and joyfully before the Lord. That’s the BIGGEST favor you can do for your children! (And yourself!)

There are great lists all over the internet to help you begin praying for your child, no matter their age. Here I’ve listed a link to D6 Curriculum’s excellent the “31 Ways to Pray for Your Child,” a list very similar to one I’ve used with my children. Just be sure to use the PDF link for a downloadable and printable list.

(Sorry, you’ll have to cut and paste this one into your browser bar for now:)

Don’t fret if you’ve not been consistent in this practice of prayer before; just get started and ask God for His grace to enable you.

Another point:  please see the list above or similar ones only as a starting place. Ask the Holy Spirit to search your child, and in His all-knowing wisdom He will reveal specific other things to pray for your child. (Especially important when they reach those teenage years and you can’t always know what’s going on .  .  .  He always does!)

May the Lord bless your prayer sojourn .  .  . may He grant wisdom where it is needed to understand. . .and may you see God’s abundant answers to your specific prayers .  .  . as your children grow to love the Lord with all their hearts and lives.

Lookin’ up,


The Prayer Closet

“But you, when you pray, go into your inner room, and when you have shut your door, pray to your Father Who is in secret, and your Father Who sees in secret will repay you.” Matthew 6:6, NAS

The best, most important thing you can do for your children is to pray for them.

Lately God has been re-instructing me about prayer, and it has spurred me on to make some noticeable changes in how I approach Him. If we’re honest, we believers must admit to requiring reinforcement in the basics from time to time . . .

Humbly, we should be like Jesus’ disciples, who came to Him after they’d observed Him at a distance praying to His Father, simply asking: “Lord, teach us to pray.” (Luke 11:1) This pleased Jesus, Who immediately following this request, gave us the rich pattern of praying in the Lord’s Prayer.

What true prayer is. . .It is relationship with the LORD God. First and foremost, it is a proclamation of Who God is. . and what He’s done on behalf of the human race . . and what He’s done for me personally. Then it’s a forthcoming about my own insuffiiciencies, my sin. Lastly, it’s a detailing of needs–mine and others’.

It’s a two-way street and requires much more listening on my part than my talking. (Oh, so hard to do!)

In our church’s recent University of Life class on prayer, we’ve been studying the excellent little book, How to Develop a Powerful Prayer Life by Dr. Gregory Frizzell. It’s short, pithy, and to-the-point—in which he explains different kinds of prayer and why saturating your prayer with Scripture reading is SO important. (Here’s an Amazon link:)

Frizzell suggests the importance of a prayer closet, and I’ve taken it to heart. This said, please do not infer that I am an expert on this subject by any means. I do think this extra step may encourage you, as a parent, or as a fellow believer, to take the necessary steps to obtain a deeper walk with Him, to know Him more intimately through prayer. May He receive all the glory!

Jesus tells me in Matthew 6:6 to go to my “inner room” to pray. My inner room, which I’ve specifically repurposed for this, is my walk-in closet.

Yes, I know not everyone is blessed with a walk-in closet! But God has given you an “inner room” somewhere. . . You just have to ask Him to reveal it to you! He will never ask us to do something for which He’s not equipped us already. So ask God where He’d like to get away to pray, alone with Him . . . .

Another possibility of an inner room for a young mother might be. . .the bathroom. Teach your children that when you withdraw in there for short periods of time, you are to be by yourself. No interruptions, if possible.

Or, perhaps in your car, when your little ones are down for a nap or during lunchtime if you’re in the workplace outside the home. . .anywhere where you can be alone, “in secret” with Him is where He wants us to meet Him.

This is key. . .it needs to be a place without distractions and where you can pray aloud, if God so leads you.

I have some favorite things I’ve put in my prayer closet. . . First, there’s a seat and writing area. Because I will be writing stuff down.

I ask the Lord quiet me and fill me with the Holy Spirit, otherwise I can’t pray what He wants me to—Psalm 86:10, James 4:8.

I use a couple of Bibles there, a couple of translations. . . I start off my prayer time reading a significant portion of Scripture (from one of my One-Year Bibles or a Bible-reading plan) and I let God speak to me through it, taking notes.

I ease into praise and worship, through even more Scripture. A dear lady recently gave me this little book, 31 Days of Praise by Ruth & Warren Myers. I find I like to read it aloud to God, one portion a day. I know this book is going to become a staple for me! (But you could just as easily use any favorite Psalm or passage that describes or praises God.)

I go through the different kinds of prayer, following wherever the Holy Spirit leads. Praise. Confession of Sin. Petition. Intercession. Meditation. It’s never the same way twice!

Sometimes a prayer need weighs heavy, and I find God wants me to dwell there for a while. I use a notecard to write key things He reveals to me about this request, and then allow Him to bring to mind any Scriptures that pertain to this request, using the Strong’s concordance to jog my memory. I write out the Scriptures on the back of each card to help me easily pray them back.

I would suggest you use a separate card for each child–changing and adapting the specifics of whatever the Lord urges you to pray for them!

I then have a prayer journal in which I record the date and the major things I prayed for that day, perhaps a quick thought or two God has left me with.

Although we humans most definitely have needs that we can bring before Him, we pray to know God BETTER. We pray not to receive the gifts He from His hand, but because we love Him and want to please our Heavenly Father.

I challenge you—find and equip your prayer closet. Pray, like you’ve never done before. And God, Who sees all, will surely enable you to see answers to those prayers, to His glory and His praise. Let me/all of us know how it goes!

Lookin’ up,


I Got Your Back

What if there was something each of us who call ourselves believers could do to reach the world that did not involve:

. . . taking an evangelism class. . .

. . . memorizing a formula. . . .

. . . teaming up with a buddy to knock on people’s doors. . .

. . . passing out flyers, cards, information packets from the church. . .

. . . spending 15 minutes chit-chatting until you get to the real “meat” of the matter. . .

. . . .having to quote all those verses in order. . .

. . . screwing up the courage to say something meaningful . . .

. . . reaching the point where you ask “the question”. . . .

. . . getting scared spitless. . .?

Would you do it?

I’ve clunked through the process above and prayed God would use my feeble efforts, which I’m He sure He did because He’s God.  He doesn’t waste any service given to further the gospel.

Nowadays when an opportunity falls in my lap to proclaim the gospel aloud, I am always ecstatic to do so.  But as I’ve gotten older, I find I do less of this kind of targeted sharing.   God now presents more opportunities to share Him in ways that are more spur-of-the-moment, more under-the-radar than the old methods.   You could call it stealth evangelism.

Jesus is our best example.  When He encountered people where they were, He asked questions and was genuinely interested in them.  He didn’t always try to “close the deal” by getting people to “pray the prayer.”  Sinners found Him approachable and likeable–they weren’t scared to be around him, fearful of His condemnation or distrustful of His pat answers.

This is the way the stealth thing could translate in our modern society:  You notice someone who’s having a hard day, wherever you are.  You shoot up a silent prayer for that person.  You ask God to bless him/her and that Jesus be glorified through it.  That’s it.

And if you are a brave enough soul and the Lord gives you a chance, engage the person in light conversation about their specific worries.   Give them your undivided attention.  Take a few moments to hear them out and let them know you are praying for them.

You don’t have to attach anything preachy or religious to the encounter–just let them know you’re praying. Most likely, people will be extremely grateful for the gesture.  You become the connecting bridge between them and God, and in turn give them a small taste of Jesus’ care for them.

When it comes to evangelism, we can be our old ordinary selves and it turn out to be good enough.  Instead of “asking”  people for something, we can give them something–our undivided attention–and they come away refreshed.  It’s the equivalent to giving “a cup of cold water” in Jesus’ name.

I want to be like Jesus.  I want to be friends with those who need Him, I want them to feel comfortable around me.  Who knows–in the midst of a prayed-for, caring relationship with that person, God may draw them to His bosom.   If He brings them into His kingdom because of the small part I played, then ALL PRAISE BE TO HIM!

So, go on and do something small, do something ordinary–for Jesus.  Go stealth and see what happens.  Do it because you have springs of living water to give away.

Send in the results of your own stealth encounters and I may do a future post on them.  May the Lord abundantly bless your efforts in Jesus’ name!

Lookin’ up,